Sorry about the delay in things going on. I'll try to keep this brief while covering literally half a year... Lets get cracking!
So far my transition has been pretty much slow, yet highly calculated, steps. I personally like it that way since it really doesn't draw much attention to myself as someone who is transgendered. Although you can go the speed of light, its not a race. I want you readers (whoever you are and whatever your sexuality may be) to always remember this.
The big news is the fact that I came out to one of my male friends whom I've only known briefly. For all intensive purposes, let me refer to him henceforth as "Kook" (a variation on his usual internet callsign). Anywho, some months prior I had been playing a game of Halo Reach with Kook and a few mutual friends, whom I met him through. Naturally, I play as a female character. And of course naturally people ask about it, but I always just shrug it off. So at one point he mentioned something about being distracted by my character's bum. I then proceed to proclaim how cute his character's but was. He felt awkward, since I sound still like a guy, but my male friends who were playing with us at the time informed Kook that I liked men.... "close enough", I figure.
So he knows I'm somewhere in the LGBTIQQA community (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Intersexed Queer Questioning & Ally), but not really sure where. Some time goes by, and his roommates leave for winter break and he's all home alone eating nothing but ramen. We've stopped playing Halo so often, so we migrated onto Skype where I met his brother and girlfriend. It was at this point that I told him I was trans. He was sort of blown away, but completely cool about it. He told his girl and I eventually told his brother, who was equally ok with it. Kook and his brother started referring to me by my proper pronoun, and it felt great :)
They overall helped me with my voice and allowed me to build up my coinfedence, which was nice for a change. However it was awkward to go from a "She, her" environment to a "He, him" environment. I can testify now that "He & Him" really sort of hurt. Anyway, eventually I came out to Kook's roommates, who all are now referring to me as she and her... all is good.
My roommates have, however, been quite a bit of a problem. For a semester one of my roommates, Justin, was off on a leave of absence, and finally came back. What followed was a string of parties, long nights and never ending music. Not to mention the drug usage, fowl language (conveniently occurring once they wake up- as if they wake up from a dream about being a sailor), loud sex without informing me, whiney friends, and a general negligence to do dishes/take out the trash. Overall, its fairly bad.
However, what is really nice is the fact that I essentially have a single room... since the roommate thats supposed to be in my room with me never stays. So, that being said, I can dress up whenever and however frequently as I'd like. I've already started the process to move to another appartment on campus, but I'm seriously saddened by the fact that I cannot dress as much as possible anymore. I mean, me and a friend have been going to Salvation army stores like mad, and I usually buy a few things whilst there. (As a side tip, Salval's are your best bet for clothes!) So I have a bit of a wardrobe now and I leave it out and about since nobody really comes into my room anyhow. I even bought a bloody wig, but I'm really hoping to get on DHT blockers to improve my beautiful hair...
I still smoke pot, often with Kook. He's really fun like that. I'd like to note that whenever I get really high, I start to really move and behave like a girl. Kook is a bit stunned by my walk, apparently :3
I've started to watch this anime called Wandering Son , which is about a boy and girl in middleshool who really want to become the opposite of their birth gender. For once transexualism isn't the joke or used stereotypically- I actually really feel for the character's struggles. Oddly enough I'm reminded of me and Nathan... but I'd like to think I'm not nearly as effeminate as the transwoman in the series, yet I'm positive I was when I was that age. I really wish I hadn't waited so bloody long to start this process.
Using that as a transition (hah), I'm planning on going to the next con down here as Yoshino Takatsuki, the girl who wants to be a boy.
Its admittedly a weird contradiction for me... I mean, I want to crossplay someone, but I seriously am nervous about my abilities to actually pull off a decent looking girl. So, using this logic I've decided to go for Yoshino in his "girl form". Its a relatively simple crossplay- just a blazer, undershirt, optional sweater, and a skirt (Or I can just go for the shirt and pants >.> ).
I'm really excited. My favorite part of all this is I'm a transwoman in pre-transition who is going to a convention as a girl who wants to be a man, who naturally acts like a boy whenever possible... so I'm basically going as a guy again, if you wanna follow that train of logic... *cough* Its just silly :)
I'm a bit dazed right now, so that's probably why this entire post is a bit wonky... I'll make it up to y'all with comparative pictures of me now dressed up with some when I first started pre-transition!
Tootles folks!
P.S. I started my autobiography too! xD
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