I've got a stinking cold at the moment :( Just as I finish uni and get time to myself I get a stinking cold. Grrr.
I got my essay on masclulinty in Disney films back on Tuesday and got a 2.1 (for you yanks that's the next mark down from the highest mark) which I'm really pleased with. Writing is not my strongest point but I'm pleased I was able to produce something good.
Over the weekend I got my hair cut. Picture time! Dun dun dun!
This is the shortest I've ever had it and love it. The girl did a great job. It even looks good when I'm in 'girl mode' as we'll call it now. All in all pretty happy.
I would write more but my head is thumping after writing this and that last post. I'm off to get myself a hot drink and some more sleep.
YAAAAY for haircut time! Looking good mister! hehe I hope things continue on the up and up for you. This ties into your other post but I know it took Nigel awhile but something as big as this all depends on how well Nigel usually processes things. I pride you in giving him the time he needed. Going from shocked, denial, pissed, accepting it against his will and finally accepting it because its who you really are and he really cares for you is a long journey. You have to remember you've been dealing with this for quite some time and have already traveled that road. He did it in a month. Plus some parts of you I'm sure you're still slow on realizing about yourself. He cares for you and you care for him. So being there for him while he tries to learn to accept this new curve ball is definitely important. Even if eventually you just classify your relationship as friends, this transition (and i don't use this word casually) is a process and if you do it correctly you will ensure he's by your side for many more years to come, no matter the capacity. As for your mum, again I'm really proud that you finally did come out to her because it shows how serious you are and it creates more truths in your transition. The more that people know, the more it becomes a reality for you and the happier and more comfortable in your life you can be. Plus having a family member rooting for you will make your other conversations, i.e. your dad or whomever else you feel you need to speak to about it, easier since you won't have to do it alone. So all in all I see two victories here and I'm super proud. Great job Nathan!
ReplyDeleteP.S. Don't worry about having to be a girl every once in awhile... as this becomes more and more of a reality for Nigel and he accepts who you really are perhaps things will change. He needs some link to his own sense of “normalcy” in order to cope. Don't fret. Just be there for him and things over time should work out.
Hugs. Goodluck! THANKS FOR POSTING!